Sunday, May 11, 2008

The attraction of permanent chastity

The fantasy of permanent male chastity is attractive. It would be nice to say that it was "darkly attractive".

The truth is, that it is a "dark" fantasy - to never again be able experience a proper orgasm, masturbate or have sex - but the attraction itself is anything but dark.

Oh, sure, the threat of permanence spices up many a fantasy, and the moment of being trapped forever makes a deliciously sharp climax. But the lure of permanence for its own sake - rather than as a form of surrender to a mistress - is the siren song of safety.

Sex, for men at least, is dangerous.

No, really. We poor men grow up with mixed messages.
  • "Raw female sexuality is the ultimate beauty, but women's t experience of sex is tangled with emotions."
  • "The only appropriate sexual partner is a strong woman, but strong women don't just give into a man's lust."
  • "Desire is good, but selfish gratification is bad."
  • "Women can and should demand satisfaction, but a woman who does things for you may be doing it because she feels she has to. (Shame on you)."
  • "Women should be assertive, but a man should dread being a bully above all else."
  • "The female orgasm is all powerful, but you can never tell whether she's faking it for your sake."
How are we supposed to make love to a powerful woman, but without demeaning her, or in some subtle way emotionally blackmailing her into doing something she finds gross? Can we do this AND keep our hard-on?

Rather than, as you might expect, castration-lite, a male chastity belt is both a muzzle and a shark cage.

Put on a chastity belt and - with the logic of fantasy - you know what happens will be entirely for her sake; female sexuality in the wild, untrammeled by the phallus. And, you need not fear releasing this howling tornado of animal libido. Your penis will be locked away nice and safe, where voracious femininity cannot harm it, and where its state of hardness will remain forever a mystery - no performance anxiety here!

Until you take it off.

What if she's holding back because she knows its coming off next week and thinks I'll want a repeat performance, but with a 'live' penis? What if she does want a repeat performance?
(Gulp!) What if I mess it up, or can't get it up?

What if you gave her the key? Then it's about you again. Are you really being a pushy sub? Are you topping from the bottom?Is she going through the motions like all those long suffering pre-modern wives and mistresses? ("Yes you've been a naughty boy (yawn). You must be punished...").

Somebody online once wondered why anybody would crave permanent chastity. For them, the fun of a chastity belt was the power it gave the key-holder to withhold, blackmail and tease. With no prospect of release, there could be no tormenting hope.

And that is exactly it. The hope is tormenting... extremely tormenting for some people.

But throw away the key, rivet on the device... what a comforting fantasy.


Anonymous said...

Well put.

Anonymous said...

For me and my wife, it is not so much permanent male chastity, but permanent conditional male chastity. It's not whether or not I am ever allowed again an erection/orgasm, but that any erection/orgasm I am allowed is totally under her control (if, when, where, how, etc.). I am in a Lori's PA locking tube and after several modifications/adjustments, it's now on 24/7 except for doctor's appointments or the like. My own sexual satisfaction comes only occasionally and only at her whim, and includes factors such as my pleasing her, my diligence in my chores, and whether or not my "attitude" has been satisfactory to her. On the low end, my "pleasure" may be nothing more than a prostate milking, but could escalate to a hand job, or maybe even a once-in-a-blue-moon suck job. One way it never happens anymore is through penis/vagina sex. Since our kids are now grown and we will never have any more, that experience is out for me. We (she) has a nice collection of more than adequate penis substitutes when she wants me to please her that way. Most often, it's a combination of oral service and penis substitution that floats her boat. This situation suits both of us perfectly.

Anonymous said...

It sounds like you two have a perfect relationship.
I always liked milkings and as a man that had extreme premature ejaculation a therapist suggested chastity milkings and having her dominate to relieve my anxiety.
We found her pegging me after I went down on her until she was satisfied was perfect. I love eating her pussy and feel I am lucky because she deserves so much more than me. I have had my best orgasms ever with a dildo or penis in my ass and the therapists thinks we have found the perfect balance. I never get to put my penis in her vagina ever. We bought a flesh lite trainer but I still cum immediately so I could not deny her a real man. She has me clean her up and fluff her men. When she isnt in the mood they fuck me in one of my dresses

Giles English said...

I guess we chayste males are an odd but happy lot!

Anonymous said...

Ma'am locked me as her "birthday present" 2 years ago this month. I wear a mature metal jailbird.
When she locked me she said I am never ever to mention it save in emergency. She has left it virtually alone save some scrotal tickling which drives me insane.
Clearly Ma'am will never unlock it. I will die in chastity.
Two years without cuming. No hope in sight.
Guess what?

Giles English said...

The scary thing is that I get you. :)