Ten tips for a chaste night of passion...

For chaystes like me, there's something wonderful about spending the night in chastity after an evening of chaste lovemaking or BDSM.

Of course, there's the masochistic thrill of the moment of lock-in, and every time I'm horribly turned on and realise that – yes, really – I won't be able to come tonight.

It's also nice to relax into the role knowing that there'll be no awkward anticlimax at the end of the evening, and that there's no vanilla pressure on either of you to unlock.

Most of all, though, it's a way of fully entering the chayste existence. If your chastity fantasies are about being chaste, rather than the keyholder power relationship, then their most natural expression is to be locked in with no immediate prospect of release.

Unfortunately, there are usually two snags: fitting the adventure into your mostly vanilla relationship; and overcoming the practical problems of sleeping in a chastity device.

5 RELATIONSHIP TIPS

Most women aren't actually obsessively kinky fetishists. Sorry.

Sure, they'll often have fun indulging our kinks because they like being sex goddesses, because being transgressive gives them a kick, or – best of all – because our kinks offer a natural expression for their vanilla sexuality. For example, if she enjoys flirting and sexual teasing, then a man in a chastity belt makes a great target. If she likes being pampered, then a slave or submissive lover could make her evening.

For these reasons, it's often quite easy to get a girlfriend or partner to play kinky games—but only up to a point. Games that are more trouble than they're worth, or violate her sense of self, or that threaten some unwanted relationship transformation, turn her off and make her look at you with suspicion.

So, unless you're with a true fetishist, if you want to spend the night in chastity, you have to approach your playmate sensitively and realistically....

1. Just an enhancement, not an extension into the night: If you haven't already done so, introduce chastity play first.
   
   If you already have chastity or BDSM play going, then make it clear that this is just icing on the cake, not a whole new dish, or a meal going on into the night for which she'll have to stay awake.
   
   Given the kinky blinkers most male fetishists wear, your partner probably half-suspects that this is the thin edge of the wedge.
   
   State your lack of expectations, and stick to them!
   
   
2. Benefits for her (and not your fantasy mistress): Give realistic reasons why she might enjoy, or at least be unaffected, by your chastity adventure.
   
   Unless she's a natural domme, most of these benefits are likely to be vanilla... perhaps there's a point in her hormone cycle when she enjoys stimulation, but not penetration... maybe after a massage and a really good seeing to, she's too sleepy to be interested in sex anyway... and if she wants penetration, a strap-on could supply that, with the possibility of variations in size and no more or less staying power than she wants.
   
   Make sure that any kinky benefits relate to her enjoyment of the evening session, not the rest of the night (when she will want to be asleep!). Perhaps it'll be fun playing with you knowing that you really won't be getting off, or maybe she enjoys teasing you. Maybe, up to this point, your play sessions have always had awkward endings because of your need to get off, and this is the fix...
   
   Except for the last point, don't suggest anything kinky which she hasn't already stated she enjoys. For example, it may be obvious to you that she enjoys being "mean", but she may not be comfortable admitting this!

3. Explicitly take responsibility: Give her the opportunity to enjoy your chastity, without fussing with the mechanics of your chastity device.
   
   Be able to truthfully say that you have all the practical problems ironed out ahead of time (see Practical Tips, below).
   
   Agree to leave the bed if your tossing and turning disturbs her. If possible, put the key out of reach (see Practical Tips #4) rather than turn her into a keyholder.... unless she insists on being one.
   
   State clearly that this is your fantasy and that if it doesn't work out, then that will be your problem, not hers.
   
   
4. Back to normal afterwards: If you've done your job properly, she's probably still sexually sated and therefore not in the mood to think about sex or kink. Unless she requests otherwise, in the morning, act normal, regardless of whether or not you are out of the belt.
   
   Unless she wants to discuss it, tell her "last night was brilliant" and leave it at that for now – this is not the time to give her any feedback, or plan marathons.
   
   If not, let her initiate any action, and don't rush back into kink space unless prompted by her.
   
   Be matter-of-fact but discrete about the practical aftermath. Clean the device and any toys, and put them away without making a fuss. If you have welts or chafing, pretend to ignore them around her.

5 PRACTICAL TIPS

Humans can adapt to all sorts of discomfort, but not right away, and not overnight! It's also true that with a BDSM fantasy, you're probably after a very particular sort of discomfort. If something practical goes wrong, it'll spoil your chastity adventure and possibly put her off the whole thing...

1. Snag thoroughly: Mild pinching and chafing won't feel nearly so "mild" after more than eight hours locked in.
   
   
2. Dry run: If possible, try sleeping on your own locked in, or at least wear the device for 6-8 hours during the day. That way, you'll be able to spot and fix any problems before the big night, and have some idea about how to get comfortable.
   
   Most importantly, make sure you can consistently answer the call of nature without making a mess or filling your chastity cup with piss!
   
   
3. Contingency plan: Have a way of concealing your locked up state should the outside world intrude, e.g. boxer shorts and loose trousers.
   
   Also, in extremis, know how you'd get out of the belt.
   
   
4. Put the key out of reach: The idea is to adjust to overnight chastity, not to spend eight hours revisiting the decision. Even if you have the willpower, your partner may start feeling guilty.
   
   So, put the key where you can't get at it until the morning. I use the timelock software, but you might want to leave the keys in your car, or the office, or post them to yourself.
   
   
5. Normal routine: Don't gild the lily! On the night, wear your usual pyjamas, have the usual supper or nightcap, go through the usual routine.
   
   The only thing that should be different is that you've got a chastity device around your cock.
   
   The other stuff can come later.

Above all else, be realistic!

If you remember that it takes more than a sex toy to change the way our bodies and our minds operate, then there's a good chance that even a very vanilla partner will enjoy her part in your fantasy...

Life with Moira...

I notice somebody opted for life with Moira; the kinkiest of all the choices.

What's it like?
Moira, sweet Highland redhead that she is, doesn't really relate emotionally to men, so expect her to get her kicks at the local lesbian club. Sometimes she'll bring dates home, and the kinkier ones won't mind if you watch.

She has a good reason for keeping you around, though. It's handy to have somebody to look after the house and, though she's not interested in teasing or giving pleasure, or in the psychological aspects of femdom, Moira does like causing pain.

Every so often, she stakes you out and drips hot wax on your chest while she has you lick her off. Other times she'll put clothes pegs on your nipples and masturbate - not as a tease - but because she likes the sounds you make.

Do you get to come?
Yes, any time you ask, she ties you to the bed and use a prostrate massager. The down side is that she then beats you, and you don't have that cushion of arousal to hide behind...

Why do you stay?
The fear keeps you on edge, making every moment with her intense. There's something about her that keeps your chastity belt tight.

Rare Sketch from the world of Whips and Stockingtops

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Femdom Artists site

Followed a link in comments and found this site. In amongst the usual fetish images are some more vanilla-looking dommes (of which more later).

Felicity...?

Apart from the hair colour, a certain British songstress would make a very good Felicity....

Moira....?

via fireycrotch

Interesting post...

Her's Forever has an interesting post on what you fantasise about, or do, before an orgasm, and what you're actually prepared to do afterwards.

Of course, in a chastity belt, you don't get an orgasm to tip you back to vanilla normality, so I for one find it hard to remove the thing once I'm in...

However, I wonder whether this is the acid test for the difference between a kink and an alternate self?

Who would play Felicity...?

I can see at least on other person would go for Felicity. I always imagined her looking a bit like this...

Plump, but not obese. Self-confident (at least on the outside) and definitely English "posh totty".

Here voluptuous shape is so unfashionable, I don't think there's a modern actress or pop star who could play her.

Even so, the world is full of women and girls who actually look like this.

Who would you cast in the movie...?

Is this Cassandra? (New Poll)

I found this lady courtesy of Johnny's Vintage Archives. She's the spitting image of how I imagine Cassandra... or at least how I imagine the 1930s model who resembles Cassandra.

It made me think about the girls I invented. They pretty much covered all the types, and - to be honest - even now, they're all a turn on.

But, which of them would you choose if you were stuck in a chastity belt?

Me? They're all intelligent and attractive. However, Moira scares me. I'd stay clear of her. Cassandra's too dark, too bleak, even without the kink. That leaves Felicity, all giggles and warmth since the chastity belt banishes her one insecurity.

What about you...?

Survey: Chastity Planet well ahead...

So, Chastity Planet is still well ahead in the survey. I wonder if it's the familiarity of the setting that carries the day...

Chastity Planet Episode 4 continued

And here's the concluding part of Episode 4. I think there's another to come. As always, it all depends on reader reaction...

He shuddered. "No. That's not fair!"

"But you are wanting to come?" cooed Brigit, rubbing insistently.

"Yes! No.. Ah...!"

The sharp sensation set Tom straining in his bonds, pulling back his hips. But Brigit's fingers followed. Tom's penis throbbed crazily, trying to burst free of the flesh-welded cup

"It's a bit like an oversized love button," she mused.

The semen forced its way through his penis like molten lava. Tom whimpered and clenched his buttocks, doing everything to draw back on the torrent.

Brigit yelped and leapt to her feet.

Tom's penis rippled. He thrust his hips but felt nothing as a months' worth of semen drained from the blank cup.

The girls laughed and Tom blushed. Shorn of the fuzz of sexual frustration, he felt achy, sticky, foolish—

Mary gave the whip an experimental flourish. The tails fanned out and swished the air. Not a whip then, a scourge.

--and scared. "Please no! You can’t do this!"

Mary grinned like a demented pixie. "But I can, and I will!" As the other two girls arranged themselves on the nearest bed to watch, the petite blonde paced around to stand to his left. He glimpsed the scourge rise, then pain-drops spattered his back.

Tom yelped and arched back against his bonds.

Mary giggled and struck him again, this time on the buttocks.

The impact rocked through into his chastity cup and his flaccid penis twitched.

"How am I doing?" she asked.

Tom just whimpered.

Brigit grinned. "I've had an idea." She rolled to her feet, put her back to Tom and lifted the hem of her silvery dress to unveil moon-white buttocks dusted with freckles.

Deidre's jaw dropped. "Brigit Ursula O'Hara, what do you think you are doing?"

Brigit shifted her silver-sandled feet apart and bent over to rest her hands on the bed.

Tom's eyes widened. His cock stirred inside its prison.

The red head reached back one hand to guide his... no, the fake... cock into her pussy, and pushed her cool buttocks against his thighs. "I promised him sex."

"Are you quite finished?" asked Mary from his left.

"Yes," said Brigit, her Celtic lilt turning into a luxurious drawl. She glanced over her freckled shoulder. "Whip him until he bleeds."

The scourged swished and clawed the back of Tom's left thigh. He screamed and writhed against the bonds that pinned him in a taut X. The dildo slurped and the redhead moaned.

Now the scourge bit his shoulders, his waist, his buttocks, dotting around randomly so there was no way to brace for the pain. Each assault forced a scream from his throat and made his hips jerk. The redhead kept her buttocks jammed firmly against his thighs, so his agonised movements made the dildo so churn and squelched inside her red-thatched vagina.

The plump girl on the bed reached inside her sheet. Her arm worked in time to the pain. Her face purpled. She drew in her legs, shedding her covering entirely so that he could see her chubby fingers in the midst of her thick black curls, churning away at her glistening lips.

And the scourge scored his back, making wet sounds as it landed.

Tom gave up screaming and now Brigit's and Deidre's mingled moans buffeted his ears. The plump girl curled forward and seemed to meet the tall redhead's gaze, then she gave a long groan, and that triggered an answering cry of orgasm.

The pain ceased. "Thank God!" said Mary. "My arm hurts."

The redhead twitched forward off Tom's dildo, straightened herself and brushed down her skirt silvery skirt. "You can go now." She clapped her hands. "Release."

The bonds simply gave.

Tom dropped to his knees and then toppled to sprawl on the floor. The welts criss-crossing his back and buttocks became a throbbing web of pain.

"No, he can't be going," said Mary, behind him. Her bare feet pattered around him and appeared before his face. Her toes were neatly pedicured, but with no sign of nail polish. "Kiss my feet," she said.

Tom raised his face. "Go to Hell!" His gaze ran up her slender thighs and beyond the hem of her T-shirt. A sodden furrow divided her blonde frizz, leaving her red pubic lips.

He kissed the top of Mary's tiny feet.

The salt and dust collected on his tongue and it was as if the web of pain collapsed into his groin.

With a groan, he forced his tongue between her toes. The sweaty tang made his chastity cup clench like a robotic fist. He whimpered and licked up towards her anklebone. "Let me fuck you."

Mary laughed. The scourge caught him in the cheek.

His face blazed and he sprawled onto his marred back to lie their pinned by fatigue and pain.

"I have a better idea..." Her footsteps receded. The fabricator pinged and the girls giggled.

Tom raised his head.

The petite blonde stood before him, naked now; pert breasts glistening in the light, nipples standing out like finger tips, and a black penis sprouting from her groin as if it belonged. "I think I'll be the one doing the fucking."

Tom yelped. His anus clenched, sending blood into his captive groin. "No!"

Mary's eyes narrowed. "But you want it, don’t you?"

The tall redhead appeared beside her, equally naked except for her strappy sandals, long legs stretching up to where a dildo protruded from her red bush. "I'm sure he does. Why else would he have come home with me?" said Brigit sweetly.

Deidre stepped out from behind the taller girl. From between her chubby thighs projected a short fat dildo. Her round face creased into a wide grin. "I'd say he was asking for it."

Tom shuffled backwards and collided with a sofa.

The three girls took a step forward, double-headed dildos glistening with lubrication.

Chastity Planet: It's not about the boy

I'm not convinced I've built Chastity Planet quite right.

By giving post-orgasmic women the option to reward men by making the front of the chastity cup open, I've made the whole power structure about male sexuality.

This is fine if I want the place to be like Ibiza, or Spring Break, with frolicking hotties on the rampage taking advantage of overwhelmed young men.

It's less fine if I want it to be a place where more demure ladies might take a holiday, only to be drawn in to wilder adventures.

As it stands, there's no way that Chastity Planet could downplay the erotic nature of what it offers enough to allay the suspicions of parents sending their 18-year old daughters to the Conservatory.

There are two ways around this.

The easiest is just to close all chastity cups, end of story. The horny males still live in fear of earning demerits, or falling down the status ladder, but there's no chance of an orgasm.

The alternative is to rule that Chastity Planet is a federation of several nations, each with its own laws, and each loudly decrying the others for departing from the original feminist vision.

The major continent is sealed-cup only, and so the main - ostenisble - destination for tourists and students. However, other more S&M cultures also exist....

Survey: Chastity Planet still on top...

Chastity Planet is still clearly in the lead, so much so that I'm tempted to make this my next long project.

Should I make it more retro SciFi in feel? I think it would work better. In a "realistic" far future, robots would take the place of slaves.

And then there's the costumes. I've vaguely assumed it was best to keep things close to our own fashions.

But, perhaps I'm wrong.

Food for thought....

"Sing if you're glad to be chayste"

This new story idea has got its hooks into me: a world where orgone-harvesting aliens have arbitrarily chastised 5% of the males between 18 and 40, turning them into chaystes.

Should there be a downside to getting turned on? Perhaps the aliens only have so many channels. So if you can just avoid sexual excitement for a few years, perhaps the thing drops off and they abduct some other sucker. This would make older chaystes somewhat suspect in the public eye. Or is it better to have "chayste" as an irrevocable identity that you just have to learn to live with?

Should people be able to tell that you're chayste?

If you can keep your chaysteness secret, then that gives us "coming out" stories, and scenes where she comes on to him, and he's trying to hide the fact he has no accessible genitals...

On the other hand, if the aliens collar their orgone donars, then that will mark them out as sexual targets for predatory young women, but also as safe playmates for intriguingly inhibited ones--

--realistically it's probably what the aliens would do, assuming they have any knowledge of humans.

What would they use? A collar or forehead crystal would be too easy to hide. How about a palm crystal, like in Logan's Run? Alien booby traps would prevent the obvious surgical solution. It would certainly be hard to hide from anybody you knew, but you could hide it most of the time in public spaces.

Perhaps it glows redder, the less orgone you produce. So, if you live the life of an ascetic hermit, it'll shine like a beacon, beckoning all the predatory females...

The real 3rd sex?

So, now Chastity Planet is pulling ahead. I wonder why?

Perhaps men who like chastity aren't always necessarily interested in traditional femdom except as a context for chastity.

Traditionally, the sexes are numbered 1-3:

1st Sex - Men who fuck women
2nd Sex - Women who fuck men
3rd Sex - Homosexuals...WHAT?

It's not logical, is it?

Let me propose, instead:

1st Sex - Straight
2nd Sex - Gay
3rd Sex - Chaste

Because, really, "Chaste" is a sexuality. I don't mean in a keyholder relationship. Nothing wrong with that (all clean fun). I mean full on prefers to wear a chastity belt for all erotic activity.

You know you're a bit chaste - should I spell it "chayste"? - if taking the device off at the end of an erotic encounter always feels like a bit of a come down, as if you were turning your back on another world.

How many people are fully chayste? Very few, I suspect. Most of us are straight, or gay as well.

But, imagine a world like ours, but where chayste was a recognised orientation? Perhaps one you didn't choose, but that you made the best of.

How do I get all these millions of young men into chastity devices, I wonder?

Obvious: Aliens harvesting orgone energy!

Suppose, from time to time, they just drop from the sky, grab a horny college boy and slap some alien tech over his privates? Nothing else would change, there'd be no new technology, no change in the laws. Just some frustrated guys powering distant flying saucers...

Hmmm.....

Survey Results so far...

The survey is bringing in some interesting results.

At the moment, my Whips and Stockingtops world is clearly lagging behind - I wonder if it's too similar to Chaste Britannia? Do whip-wielding chicks in togas have the edge over their stocking-clad counterparts?

Or perhaps an utterly dehumanised role for a slave just isn't that interesting. Is it more better if the mistress engages with her slave as a man?

Worlds of Chastity

(Original image from here.)

I was just thinking about how my four main settings offer a different relationship between slavery and Lesbianism:

In "Whips and Stockingtops", Lesbianism is the norm so you get plenty of f/f action, but no transgressive seduction. The good thing is that the slave's presence is taken for granted, so he gets to watch the action.

The world of "The Chastity Belt" is just our world plus a hi-tech CB. Our hero is sort of enslaved, and there are some juicy scenes where vanilla girls get seduced by this, but he's not going to routinely get to watch transgressive Lesbian seductions.

"Chaste Britannia" is my alternate Roman setting. It's quite normal to own a slave, and high-class ladies don't notice them. However, Lesbianism isn't so he does get to watch the seductions.

"Chastity Planet" is a pleasure world. The women who visit the place aren't used to having male slaves, and Lesbianism, when it happens, is transgressive.

Brothel Slave

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This one's haunted me for a while. It's one of those pre-1930 pictures you find knocking around the Internet and it seems to tell a story. There's something a bit scary about the lady, so....

What the slave sees....

Why....?